So these two weeks, we were encouraged to do a lot of research surrounding our topics that we have chosen. My topic is all around how I am dealing with the grief of my nan, I thought that the research element of this would be difficult as I already know a lot about my nan and it still is too difficult to ask my family about her as they are still grieving. Therefore, I decided to research all about grief. However that being said, I will also write some information about my nan below. My Nan - Mary Rose Graham (17th March 1941 - 15th January 2022)My nan was born on the 17th March 1941, to parents Patrick and Mary and was sister to Kathy and Geoff. She met a man on holiday in Great Yarmouth named Geoffrey where they began a long-distance courtship. They finally got married at Birmingham Registry Office on the 23rd October 1965. Many years later she had her three children; Belinda, Michael (My dad) and Jackie. My nan was a lover of cooking and was always wearing her piny. She used to made loads of foods like apple pie, jam tarts and Stew! She was a lover of Christmas, where she used to watch the whole family be happy and together where family meant the world to her. Her favourite artists were Cliff Richard and Abba. Sadly, the love of her life passed away in 2017, leaving my nan devastated by the loss of her best friend. But she fought through the sadness to spoil all of us, and she kept fighting through all the illness until her last day on the 15th January. Anyone that knew my nan was privileged to meet her. She was the most loving, kind inspirational woman which will be remembered in our hearts and memories forever. GriefGrief is an emotion which is different for everyone. When someone may feel sadness, another person could feel angry. Grief does not have to come from the loss of a loved one, it could be from a diagnosis, or the loss of what may be gone very soon. Grief is a journey that isn't linear. Almost like a rollercoaster, where there are some better days (Higher points) and some bad days (lower points). As grief is known today, there are 5 stages of grief; denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.. Denial When people have been told that someone has passed away, in order to deal with the overwhelming feelings, it is easier for someone to not believe that it has occurred rather than accepting that it has happened. Anger Due to the build up of emotions and feelings, the body has to let out some emotions in order to heal easier. These emotions tend to come out as extreme anger. This is a very helpful part of grief as it allows us to express our emotions without feeling judged or rejected. Bargaining As a result of all of overwhelming emotions, a person may feel desperate to do anything to get rid of their pain. This leaves people promising in order for the person to be alive again. An example of this would be "If you bring them back to life, I will be better, I won't get angry ever again.". Depression Over time, the overwhelming feelings will dissipate. Leaving people feeling sad whilst looking at the reality of the situation. This is due to the overwhelming emotional fog beginning to clear leaving it feeling like you have to deal with the loss of the loved one, almost being unavoidable. Acceptance After dealing with the emotions associated with the loss of a loved one, the sadness will start to disappear in your every day life. Leaving the sadness to appear with the simplest of reminders of loved ones. Like a favourite drink, film, music etc. The pain will never go completely away, but your appreciation for knowing that person would increase and the person will feel like they can finally start to get back on track again. This being said, not everyone will go through all of the stages of grief, or will go through the same process. The pain is just yours. The emotional processing is different to each person. Storyboard
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